I Take Off the Mask

When you hurt so much after confessing your feelings Out of the many challenges you face when you’re dating, being rejected is perhaps one of the hardest to go through. When you’re rejected, it feels as though your self-esteem has suddenly collapsed. You may even feel worthless altogether. Why wasn’t I chosen? Or why wasn’t I given at least the chance to prove my love? Nobody knows how hard it was to even confess your feelings. You may have spent sleepless nights thinking about the right words to say. You’ve searched his or her social media profile just to see the things your special someone likes. You may have even asked that person’s friends to get a clue about their friend’s ideal type of date. But it all ended with a rejection. How do you handle a rejection that hurt you so much? A rejection doesn’t mean you’re not good enough The first thing you have to keep in mind is that a rejection is not the same as “not being good enough”. So that person rejected you. Does it mean that perso...

What do you do when a loved one dies? When a loved one dies, you may feel as though something within you has died, too. You feel that deep void that nothing could ever fill. Your whole world changes. All of a sudden, you wonder about the meaning of your life. Sometimes, you can’t even put everything into words. You just feel lost and confused. You feel as though time has stopped and your life has stopped as well. What do you do now that your loved one has gone away? How do you even start to do the things you were doing before? For many of us, we may even neglect taking care of ourselves. We skip our meals and we find it hard to sleep. Or we may sleep all day and not move at all. Should we stop caring for ourselves when our loved one dies? What Your Loved One Would Have Wanted One very important thing to keep in mind is to think about what your loved one would have wanted for you. If he or she were still living, how would that person want to see you? Would your loved one be happy see...

Before you fall in love again, I hope that you can mend. I pray that you may find, some place to rest your mind. I hope you can forgive, even if you can’t forget. Let go but take what you have learned, Believing you can start again. Before you fall in love again, Believe in who you are, You’re stronger now and wiser, too, despite your many scars. Rebuild your life each little step, don’t listen to your fears, That day will come to smile again, and you’ll forget your tears. The above poem is included as an introduction in Jocelyn’s book  “Before You Fall In Love Again: Finding Your Happiness After Healing a Broken Heart”.  You can see the book on  Amazon — click here.