Not being meant for each other doesn't mean that one has become less, but that there are greater options that can still be worked out.

To turn down a person is not to judge him, but to believe that there is yet another who is truly meant for him and for you.

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101 Tips in Healing a Broken Heart

What steps should you take to help heal a broken heart? What tips could lift you up even for a moment, enough to hold on to until time heals all wounds and erase all pain?

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I don't intend to make light the difficulty one is going through, especiall when a bit of humor is added in some of these tips, I just hope that it could somehow help in hanging on, in resting, in healing, and possibly, in letting go and moving on.

1. Cry you heart out. Get a bag of tissue rolls and let your tears speak of what pain no one else could fully understand.

2. Call a trusted friend and confide to her your hurts. Cry again.

3. Rest for a while. Don't let your tears dry out, it would be difficult later on if you run out of tears to release the heaviness you feel in your heart.

4. Call you mother, let her know how you're planning to take vengeance with your ex.

5. Eat chocolate. Whoever says that life can't be bittersweet?

6. Even if you don't feel like it, go to the gym and hit that treadmill. Release all your pent up energies. You'll feel better.

7. Have some more sleep, cuddle a cute teddy bear, the one your boyfriend did not give you!

8. Set your alarm clock to avoid oversleeping. Use three clocks if you must so you won't cheat by turning it off and just going back to sleep. Put two clocks beyond your reach so you'd really need to get up to turn it off. (Don't take sleeping pills!)

9. Search your all Dvd files and watch every comedy film you can find. I know, you're almost sure you won't laugh anyway, but just do this for the sake of doing something for now. Give Mr. Bean a chance okay?

10. Search your Dvds again. This time, look for tragic and war movies, films like “The Pianist” or “Schindler's List”. You might feel a bit thankful after watching the terrible troubles of people living during those times.

11. Call another friend. Tell her to keep watch and just call you once in a while.

12. Search for pictures of your ex. Now you know what to do. Tear them into pieces!

13. Look for couples watching a lovely sunset. Then have the guts to tell one of them it aint gonna last!

14. Listen to sad stories of broken marriages. Be thankful you weren't married to a good-for-nothing man.

15. Search the internet for pictures of starving children in Africa. Donate some money and maybe you'd feel a little better.

16. Eat your favorite cake.

17. Treat yourself to a SPA.

18. Have your hair fixed and wear a new style.

19. Go to a place where you can pay a fee for throwing out plates and breaking them to pieces.

20. Buy rock CDs and let them lull you to sleep. Or better yet, find a new apartment with annoying neighbors so you'd have reason to stay out late in the night when you can't sleep.

21. Go shopping, buy those clothes you've always wanted to have.

22. Treat your friends to fine dining. They would feel a lot better, too!

23. Buy a pet.

24. Buy seeds and start some gardening.

25. Learn some photoshop and see how your ex would look like in 50 years. Yes I know, its disgusting. Of course you don't need to photoshop your own picture, you'd stay younger now that he's gone out of your life.

26. Watch a boring opera concert. You may not have fun, but atleast you'd fall asleep.

27. Burn your previous love letters.

28. Burn your memorabilia items.

29. Attend parties with cute guys.

30. Find yourself a new crush!

31. Surround yourself with children and play with them.

32. Go to the park and help the ice cream man sell his stuff to kids.

33. Go the home for the elderly. Let them talk to you what life is all about.

34. Read the lives of saints. See how happy they are even if they're single.

35. Volunteer for charitable work.

36. Search your closet and mend your clothes.

37. Enroll in a cooking lesson and learn a new delicious dish.

38. Dance.

39. Write a letter to yourself.

40. Watch a sunrise.

41. Dance in the rain, just don't overdo it and catch a cold.

42. Pray

43. Ask others to pray for you.

44. Look in the mirror and see how beautiful you really are.

45. Walk in the sand.

46. Run like children do.

47. Buy a punching bag, paste your ex's picture there and keep on punching.

48. Get a sideline and keep yourself busy.

49. Start writing a diary.

50. Start a blog.

51. Go to your friend's house and help with house cleaning.

52. Read books on how to heal a broken heart.

53. Make new friends.

54. Go to new places.

55. Shop at the mall.

56. Go to the park.

57. Write down the 10 things you wanted to do most in life (don't include anything about your ex).

58. Write tips you'd give to your future daughter if she ever gets a broken heart.

59. Listen to inspirational music.

60. Paint. Learn to paint.

61. Watch some cartoons like Hello Kitty or Winnie the Pooh.

62. Watch horror movies.

63. Play a computer on-line role playing game and achieve the highest level of your avatar.

64. Call a tough but trusted friend who can force you to do things you don't feel like doing.

65. Visit some children with cancer and try to entertain them.

66. Have regular brisk walks with a friend.

67. Eat fruits.

68. Buy incense and let it purify your surroundings.

69. Light a candle and let your prayer go up to heaven, to the ears of Him who hears all our cries.

70. Talk to someone who got over her heartache.

71. Join a musical band. It would be better if you're the one playing drums.

72. Buy some of your favorite toys when you were a child.

73. Have some chicken soup.

74. Buy a comfortable blanket you can snuggle into at night.

75. Cry again.

76. Take a bath.

77. Have a footspa.

78. Change your perfume.

79. Write a short story.

80. Write a poem.

81. Ride the most fearful ride you could find at the carnival.

82. Hug a pauper.

83. Ask for hugs from family and friends. Three times a day would be nice :-)

84. Buy balloons. Write in them your wishes and let them fly away.

85. Learn wall climbing.

86. Feed your pet. Remember the one I advised you to buy? If you don't he might just be dying now, you know.

87. Start a collection. Stamps, shells, rare rocks, whatever collection you'd have the slightest interest in.

88. Buy twelve pencils. Break them one by one.

89. Buy crayons. Scribble anything you desire.

90. Read my website and find your daily spiritual inspiration (www.itakeoffthemask.com)

91. Go stargazing on a clear night.

92. Wish upon a star once again.

93. Embrace an old tree. Feel the spirit of its ancient life embracing you, too, making you feel safe.

94. Give an old lady a flower.

95. Play the flute.

96. Solve a difficult puzzle.

97. Pray again.

98. Cry again.

99. Hope again.

100. Live again.

101. Love again.

Hope you find the above tips in healing a broken heart a bit useful, my friend.  If you have any additional tips, kindly let me know :-) Be blessed!

The above 101 Tips in Healing a Broken Heart was lifted from my book "30 Days to Heal a Broken Heart" , a book that answers our deepest questions and guides us thru 30 days of healing just when we're hurting and we feel like no one really understands: Why am I hurting so much? What's wrong with me? Could I ever have him back again? Whatever happened to love? Should you end a relationship even if you still love each other? Can I ever be happy again? Must I forgive him? How did we end up hurting each other so much? Why couldn't he try harder like me? I don't know if I could ever forget him. Is there anyone who could ever love me? Why do I always seem to fall for the wrong person? Why is he not suffering as much as I am right now? What if he suddenly comes back to me? But he could be the one! Read more...

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There is a time for everything. Even if we learn to step aside, and the plant finally receives the light it needs, we can never tell how fast it will grow. We can cheer all we want, and we can cry all we want. But the plant will continue to grow in its own phase. May we never get too impatient as to water it too much that it finally drowns. All that we can do is to give it space so that it can have room to grow.

Finally, after the plant has grown, we are never quite sure how much we are going to adore its flowers. Seeds sometimes look alike and we may never know what plant will grow out of those seeds. In our hearts though, we are hoping to find a rose or a mum, and we can never be more thankful if we learn that the plant has grown to be just like that.

At times however, we discover earlier that the plant we await will never bear the flower that we desire. But since we have alread waited for so long, we have learned to love the plant, and we try to convince ourselves that we will love the mum, even if it is really the rose that we long to see. That beautiful rose! We may have even been pricked once by its thorns, yet our wounds were nothing compared to the joy that the rose brought to our hearts. Yet now, there is no rose, there is only the steadfast mum. But what shall we do if the mum suddenly grows its own thorns and causes us pain? What shall we do with our bleeding hands when we finally find a rose?

God loves us so much, and we shall receive everything we believe is within the reach of His grace and generosity of heart. He doesn't want to cause us pain, yet He doesn't want to spoil our joy either. What is it that He couldn't give us? A mum? A rose? He gives us a garden with hundreds of flowers to bloom in their season! Yet God will never stop us if from that garden of flowers, we would prefer to pick a mum, or if we would choose not to wait for another rose.

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