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Jocelyn is a CPA, auditor, writer, novelist, blogger and empath. Through perseverance and self-empowerment, she was able to graduate as a scholar in college (awarded with the highest honors of Summa Cum Laude). She is also an empath. She could easily feel other people’s feelings, good or bad, as though they were her own. This combined intellect and heart has given her the unique perspective to inspire others, and to ignite in them the wisdom that can only come from heaven itself.

How much of our stress can be attributed to being ‘forced’ to do something we don’t really like to do? As we try to figure out what it is we’d really like to be doing, other voices around us keep nagging us to do things his way and her way. We hear how we must do this and that, and how we must do it in such a way – their way, not ours.

Nobody has the right to force us to do anything we don’t like to do. Even God gives us the power to choose between life and death, between good and evil. This is our freedom, and our freedom is our sole responsibility.

Much of our stress comes from the conflict between our freedom and between our desire for peace. We don’t want further arguments, and so we just say yes. We don’t want to displease anyone and so we displease ourselves until time comes when we’ve harbored enough resentment against the very people we tried to please. In the end, nobody really wins.

On the other hand, much of our stress comes also from the thought that we are being forced to do many things when we are truly not being told to do so. What we may have is a subconscious programming at the back of our minds that prompts us to take one obligation after another based on some prior experience we can’t even remember. Are we really being forced to dosomething? Or is it just our overcritical conscience that does that? Where is your guilt really coming from? Is it from the current situation? Or is it from the past where you failed to do something you felt you ought to do?

Release yourself from such kinds of stress. The current moment is already challenging enough, don’t take with you so much burden from the past or from imagined obligations. Do something not because you were forced to, but because you chose to. Or better yet, do something because you want to, because of love.

Some people are givers, they have much to give to others and many people benefit from their generosity.  There are times however when these people give so much that they feel drained from within, and there is nobody who is able to replenish them back. Have you ever felt like that? Have you ever felt as though you’re giving more than you’re receiving and that sooner or later, you’d have nothing to give anymore?

Why do you feel as though you’re giving too much?  What are some of the possible reasons you continue to give without being able to receive enough?

  • To please others and win their love
  • To please others and avoid confrontation
  • Not to hurt people and fail their expectations
  • Because it is your obligation, you are required
  • Because you are threatened with punishment and fear i.e. God’s punishment and rejection

If you’ve had the above mentioned reasons in mind, you may want to re-consider the following reasons:

  • For the good of others, not just their being pleased (See also "We Need More Than Kindness")
  • For the love of what you do
  • For your own growth

You may also want to think about the reasons why you feel you’re not receiving enough.

Why Aren’t You Receiving Enough?

  • Not asking for help due to fear of rejection
  • Not asking for help due to experience with people who ignored your needs and failed to help you in the past
  • Strong beliefs on martyrdom and the need for sacrifice
  • Help is actually being provided by God but not recognized or not in the form you want
  • Image of a demanding God requiring/ needing something from you

If you feel that you’re giving more than you’re receiving, you may need to think about the reasons why you seem to be giving so much as well as the reasons why you’re not receiving as much help as you need.

You should also note your own limitations in giving –  you may not have respected your limits often and you felt you always had to give even when you already can’t.

On the other hand, you may need to seek out more people who can also support you back, people who also have a lot of things to give and who would be more than happy to give of themselves to you.

God knows you and your limitations.  You need not carry the burden of the whole world upon your shoulders; He’s already done that for you!  In times when you can no longer carry on, let Him carry you! (See also "Why Is My Cross Heavier?")

There is a whole galaxy within you, waiting to be unleashed. Let the universe wait no more.

 

Take a very good look at the person before the mirror today. There will never be another such as she(he).

 

"I bare my nakedness to the world that the world may see who I am; not the mask that hides my flaws,not the mask that hides my beauty. I bask in the light and I take off the mask!"

 

I walked among the deities and discovered to my surprise... I am beautiful, I am one of them!

 

I am blessed this moment, I am embraced, I surrender only to love.

 

Let nothing frighten you, for you are after all, a child of eternity.

 

Look not on what you lack,but on the gift that you possess. You are the only one capable of harnessing such power!

 

God does not take us only when we are lovable,but moreso when we are most in need of love.

 

Be not afraid of your own beauty. Shine forth your light and forget not who you really are.

 

Make peace with your shadow. Unless you are able to,you will never dare venture in the light.

 

I am not my body. I am not my brain. I am more, much more and I realize the "me" which no other can replace as I face the mirror each morning, smiling for a brand new day of awakening.

 

It is not enough that you know yourself and what you're worth. You have to show the world who you really are.

 

There was a time when I couldn't forgive myself, that time when the burden of guilt was multiplied a hundred times more by the world that knew nothing but condemn those who are already down. But now is not that time, for it has long come to pass. Now is the time of acceptance, of love, and of believing in myself despite whatever accusations others may try to pass against me.


Judge me not for you do not know me. And even if you could step into my shoes, you still wouldn't be able to tell what potentials or hidden worlds could arise from within this soul.

 

Being unique is important because that makes you the only living person who can offer the world what you have. So why be afraid if you don’t fit in at times? Be proud that you can stand out! - Lifted from my article LESSONS ON SELF-CONFIDENCE

 

I am no less of a person by flaws that you see in me; I am no lesser for I am not those flaws. I know who I am, my flaws and my strengths, and there is no better person who can handle me but me.

 

I arise from the ashes of doubt, of depression and of self-pity. I arise a new being - strong, confident, beautiful and without limits!

 

Have you seen a seed? Was it at all that attractive to you? Wait awhile and see that seed grow. See it bear fruit, see its flowers bloom. See? I've caught you by surprise! I have just astounded you.

 

When I told you I could rebuild myself, I wasn't able to tell the truth. I couldn't rebuild me. I have just been reborn!

 

If I have failed you, it was not because I wanted to, but because I've failed myself first. Rest assured I will love myself more, and in so doing I would not hurt you ever again.

 

Look at me! See how much God's power is to be made manifest!

 

I am of God, a soul that can never be destroyed. How can it when God can never cease being God?

 

God loves me, unconditionally. And for me, He leaves the 99 sheep behind so He can find me and make me realize just how much I matter, just how much I am loved.

 

The greatest gift we can give to our loved ones is the gift of knowing that we are well, and that we are joyful.

 

Heaven is knowing deep in your soul how you were conceived and how you were bathed in loved. It is tapping unto the endless reserve of mercy and grace when shadows come looming over you.It is knowing that however great the challenges ahead seem to be, there is a Higher Power that will see you through.

 

 

This Is My Moment!

This is my moment!
This is my now.
I live in it,
I breathe in it,
I move,
I sing,
I dance.
This is life,
this is forever -
the rain now pouring over me
will never be the same again,
so I cry
I hope
I laugh like a little child.
I look at the sunrise as though it is my first,
as though it will be my last,
I pray
I smile
I love!
I taste the fresh air
as though I’m born again,
I smell the rose
as though an angel gave it to me.
I am here,
I am loved,
I am seen.
This is my moment,
this is the very moment
I BELIEVE!

There Are No Squares In Nature

Come to think of it, when have you ever seen the following?

A square leaf
A square fruit
A square tree
A square raindrop

Coming to think of it, nature, unlike man, does not produce

Square moons
Square suns
Square planets
Or square galaxies

There are no square rainbows
Nor square flowers
Nor square heads
that could fit inside a square box

Yet more often than not, that’s exactly what we do.

We try to put everything inside a box
We try to make all things black and white
We try to make everything spic and span
as though we could put a square peg inside a round hole
and then congratulate ourselves for the feat we have done

Since the dawn of man-made technology,
we have certainly lived in a world of squares:

square houses
square buildings
square computer screens

We write on square papers using square tables
We sleep on square beds and enter upon square doors

Where has all these taken us?
These square things have made a war with our own hearts
And against all mysteries that enrich and empower us

The next time someone tries to put your immortal soul inside a small box
Kindly remind yourself:

There are no square stars in the Universe.

To Look Using God's Own Eyes

I pray I could learn
to look at people,
the way God sees each one of us -
to be able to forego the little mistakes,
maybe even the big ones
to be able to see weaknesses
turned into strength
to know something’s hurting
and yet know that the hurt
would be healed in time
to look beyond judgment
to see with an understanding heart
to see what’s beautiful
to appreciate what’s good
to not measure anybody’s destiny
with their present plight
but to see real hope for everyone
the way God sees us
To know that orphans
have their Father
To know that those imprisoned
have One who will set them free
To see how the poor
will one day bask in God’s abundance
To see the brokenhearted
in days when God Himself
will cradle them upon His lap
To be able to see with God’s own eyes
is to see with gladness,
with hope,
and with a love so strong
it could never ever fail!

I urge you to know
who you really are;
in your eyes,
in your heart.
Know thyself,
especially your strengths.
Know that which is
beautiful.
Know that which is
loveable.
Know that which has made you
the unique and wonderful
person that you are!

Loving Yourself Through God’s Eyes
There are times when no matter how hard we try, we feel unable to love ourselves. In such times, we feel its so much easier to love other people. After all, they’re not with us 24 hours in a day We don’t see all their weaknesses. We don’t have to live with their regrets. And we’re not the ones who have to carry their hurts.
In such times, we feel overwhelmed. We don’t have enough strength to accept this person we see in the mirror everyday.
We don’t have enough love to love her. We don’t have enough strength to uplift her when she couldn’t believe in herself anymore.
During such times, I’ve known of a way to help you continue improving your relationship with yourself. And that way is to see yourself through God’s own eyes.
In God’s eyes, there is no judgment, there is only acceptance. In God’s eyes, there is no pain too hard to bear nor weaknesses too weak to be overcome by His insurmountable strength.
God can embrace us wholeheartedly, opening us up yet sustaining us and healing us at the same time. God sees all our potentials. God sees our light when all that we can see are our shadows.
God sees this person who falls but who has the power to get up again and again. God sees this person who gets hurt but does not become hard or bitter, only softer, more resilient to change.
God sees you. God cherishes you. God’s eyes love you more than anyone could ever love you as you really are.

 

Separate Your Mistakes from Your Self Image

Sometimes its so easy not to separate our behavior from our image of ourselves, to separate the sin from the sinner, so they say.
When we make blunders, we feel we’re failures. When we have broken relationships, we feel we are broken too and worthless.
However, if we truly desire to improve our relationship with ourselves, we must learn to practice acknowledging our errors without eroding our overall belief in our worth.
So you failed in your exams, does it mean you haven’t learned anything? So you weren’t accepted for a job, does it mean no employer would later on trust you and consider you a valuable asset to his company?
Things like those happen. Things change. What should remain intact is our respect and love for ourselves, our belief that we are God’s children and no matter how many mistakes we make along the way of growing up, we are still destined for Grace and eternal Joy!

Divine Mercy

Learn more about the DIVINE MERCY
"Tell them that no soul that has called
upon My mercy has been disappointed
or brought to shame."

I cannot punish even the greatest sinner if he makes an appeal to My compassion, but on the contrary, I justify him in My unfathomable and inscrutable mercy.

"I will never turn away anyone who comes to me..." - John 6:37
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